What is a Marriage?
John, you said: "If you look throughout history you can find homosexuality in every country throughout time. It does not need to be proven as genetic to be a part of the human condition." Definition of the human condition: The human condition encompasses the totality of the experience of being human and living human lives. As mortal entities, there are a series of biologically determined events which are common to most human lives, and some which are inevitable for all. The ongoing way in which humans react to or cope with these events is the human condition. However, understanding the precise nature and scope of what is meant by the human condition is itself a philosophical problem. If you want to live you’re chosen lifestyle in a philosophical bubble that is up to you. I, on the other hand, am going to live a lifestyle that works because it is what is MEANT to be not what I can philosophically argue for. John, you said: "That's the thing though. You are not a part of my marriage, its private between Ray and I." If marriage were truly a private affair, which it is not, then same-sex marriages would have little impact on anyone's family. But marriage is just as much about the community as it is about the individuals, perhaps even more so. That's why marriages are public ceremonies, whether in churches or before civil authorities, and are regulated by laws. Marriage is a societal agreement. No marriage is an island. Every marriage touches the community as a universally human community norm - a rule embraced by society for who we conduct ourselves sexually and domestically, and what we provide for children to meet their developmental needs. And every society must have a norm for what it expects and what it will NOT allow. Marriage is that social norm for the family. As humans, we are all connected and our decisions and actions - both public and private - DO affect other people, even if it is indirect and not always evident. There are no truly private marriages.